Thursday, July 17, 2008

making decisions I've made more decisions in the past three weeks than I think I have in the past three years!! I mean just deciding about the cake alone I think I must have made at least 15-20 decisions! It's crazy!! I had no idea wedding planning included this much deciding. I am SO thankful that we went with the inn. It was so much easier just answering her questions and choosing from preselected possibilities then thinking and searching and planning and trying to make it all work. Even having to think of all the questions that needed answering would be an insurmountable task! And don't even get me started on how hard making all those decisions on music are. Once I choose what song I want to use, I then have to sort through and find the version I like best. It can be overwhelming to say the least. I have set this task aside and will work with Lawrance on it when he is here. Oh, yeah, all that and I'm planning all the things I want Lawrance to experience while he is here for a month. And, I made a small registry . . . that just about killed me. I honestly was overwhelmed with all the decision making at that time. Do we really need this? Do we need that one or this one more? Is there room for this in our suitcases? Is it really worth the space and weight it will take up? I am SO thankful my brother (who for those of you who don't know is only 14) went with me. It's summer vacation; he was bored; there was a "gun" to use . . . it was a great excuse to get out of the house. Actually, he was a blessing. A few times he got a little impatient with me and was like "yes. get it;" scan. But, for the most part he helped me think though and make decisions. And most of all he was incredibly patient. I did however have to remove duct tape, a ficus tree, a turquoise tamale steamer, a bobble head thing, and a few other random surprise items off the registry when I got home. :) Oh, yeah, and another person who has been awesome in all this is my mom. She has also been really patient and understanding too. She also keeps chanting "no second guessing" or "nope, can't rethink it now" to me. :) After I added a fourth color two weeks ago, she stated firmly "no more changes." And, when I've vented to Lawrance he's been good about either encouraging me and supporting me or about helping me refocus and keep the Main thing the main thing. And, of course, he is constantly bathing the all of the wedding planning in prayer. What a blessing! Ok, so . . . . all that to say. . . . I am SO tired of making decisions. I have no idea how some of you...
pompoms and favor bags Mom and I spent some time this week working on wedding stuff. First, we started making things to hang at the wedding. We will be hanging these tissue paper pompoms both in the tree and in the reception hall. Have I mentioned we are having an outdoor wedding and are getting married under this great big, 200 year old tree: I've always dreamed of an outdoor wedding. As a side note, I always told my family that I'd get married barefoot in someone's backyard--it almost happened till mom found the inn. And, well, I'm going to wear sandals because Lawrance thinks it's safer. Back to the pompoms. Mine will be orange, teal, pink, and yellow. We also have some pomanders made out of several different colors of gerberas to hang from the tree. Mom made those. We also bagged candy that Lawrance and I picked out in Taiwan. Traditionally in Taiwan, a bride and groom will stand at "the exit door" to thank all the guests for coming to their wedding. This also ensures that everyone at the wedding has one more chance to congratulate the new couple. They stand at the door with their parents and pass out candy and cigarettes. I'm not sure what the cigarettes symbolize; however, I do know about the candy. :) The giving of candy at the wedding symbolizes the guests sharing in the sweetness of the new marriage. Or that the guests wish a sweet life on the new couple. Lawrance also told me that in Taiwanese the word for "candy" sounds like "di di" which means "little brother." So, by taking the candy the guests are also wishing the couple has a son very soon. One aspect of the candy is that I've been told to take the candy in even multiples. In other words, never take just one piece. Taking two pieces is important because you want the two of them to stay married forever. So, . . . Lawrance and I got some of the traditional wedding candy and also some other fun Taiwanese candy we thought Americans would like. We aren't going to stand at the exit door at our American wedding, but we will give out the candy in little bags with an explanation of its cultural significance as our American wedding favors. The little bags look so cute and make me very happy.

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